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Who Are You When "Us" Ends? with Nikki Parkinson

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Nikki Parkinson is a divorce doula or separation strategist with a long background in family law, as well as personal experience navigating her own painful divorce. She joins Brian to explore what happens to our sense of self when a marriage ends, and how separation changes our relationships with family, friends, and community. They also discuss why divorce is so often framed as failure, and whether telling a different story can help us move through it with more compassion and respect. Visit Nikki at divorceandseparationhub.com to learn more about her work and listen to her podcast, and find out more about Brian Lowery at brianloweryphd.com.

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About The Podcast

Know What You See

The “Know What You See” podcast delves into the ways our fundamental need to connect with others profoundly shapes our experience of life. On each episode, through conversations with experts and people just trying to make sense of it all, Brian takes a journey of exploration—answering and raising questions to deepen our understanding of and appreciation for the often surprising, sometimes perplexing, and now and then transcendent lives we create together.

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About The Host

Brian Lowery

Brian Lowery is a social psychologist who focuses on the way relationships shape who we are and can be, with a particular interest in the way we find meaning in life. He received his Bachelor of Science from the University of Illinois at Champaign-Urbana and his PhD from the University of California at Los Angeles.

Brian has a unique ability to make complex ideas about relationships and identity feel both accessible and relevant. Whether it's through his engaging talks, like his 2024 TED appearance, or his in-depth research, Brian consistently shows how our interactions with others shape who we are in surprising ways. His latest book offers a deep dive into these ideas, shedding light on how relationships drive personal growth and meaning in our everyday lives. Learn more about Brian Lowery at www.brianloweryphd.com

Buy Brian's new book,
Selfless: The Social Creation of “You”